1. Recognize that coping with any type of loss is an extremely difficult and painful challenge.
  2. *Although our society encourages stoic bravery in the face of grief, it is very important to experience and express your feelings related to your losses.
    • Remember that strong feelings will not overwhelm you or make you crazy.
    • It is easier to keep your emotions in control (e.g., when at work) when you allow yourself regular time to grieve and express your feelings.
    • Grief takes many forms. Experiencing a wide variety of emotions such as sadness, anger, fear, guilt, confusion, numbness, relief - even joy is quite normal.
  3. Take care of your physical needs (nutrition, exercise, sleep, minimizing or eliminating bad habits).
  4. Find supportive people (family, friends, clergy, counselors) with whom you can share your grief.
  5. Express your grief in creative ways such as: journaling, drawing, decorating, collages, dance or music.
  6. Help other people who are grieving or are in need. (An excellent way to put your life struggles in perspective is to be with people who are less fortunate).
  7. Pursue some form of spiritual practice (meditation, prayer, church service, experiencing nature).
  8. *Channel your grief into pursuing a cause to help others. Become involved in support groups, advocacy, research to improve treatments for life-threatening illnesses.
  9. Take breaks from your grief, and enjoy the simple pleasures in your life.
  10. Create a special place within your home where you can relax, reflect and grieve.
  11. Affirm to yourself that you will get through this, and that you will grow as a result.

* denotes that lists of books and websites are provided in the Resources section of this web site.

Grief Support Resources


Counseling Services can be reached at (815) 836-5455 during hours of operation.

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